I’m writing this post for anyone who is in an abusive relationship to encourage you that there is help and a way out, for those who aren’t aware of the resourses available through domestic violence services.
I was in a situation in the past that I didn’t know how to get out of, at times that felt I was ready to leave. I would try to leave many times until I finally got the proper help that I needed to make a better, safer life for my children and myself. For those who can relate, leaving can be difficult for many different reasons. Many times the only places to go are places that the abuser would expect you to go.
Many times safety is sought through family and friends. Abusers know that, and usually won’t make it easy. Often a person doesn’t want to include their loved ones out of fear or shame. Sometimes people are even rejected by family members or friends.
It is common for an abuser to make the person that they are trying to control finanically and otherwise dependant on them. This can also make some people feel that they will never make it without the abuser, or have the finaces to ever leave.
Some people stay in abusive situations due to moral reasons. There are many people who do not want to break up their families, they want to try to make it work. I am not trying to change anyone’s morals or beliefs, but for those who face this as a challenge, I would say that physically getting away from an abuser, even if you just try it temporarily, can change a person’s perspective on many things, as abusers will even at times try to control a person’s thoughts and feelings.
I would like to encourage anyone who is in a damaging relationship to call The National Domestic Violence Hotline, to at least talk to someone. The people there can help direct those seeking help find things such as legal services, protective shelter, housing, and counseling, along with many other resources. The numbers that I got from Google for them are: 1-800-799-7233 or 1-800-787-3224. God bless, and take care.
November 12, 2015 at 5:19 pm
God Bless you for writing this. I pray that God will be there with you during this time. Lean on him. I am 2 years out of my DV relationship and still dealing with some things including PTSD. Just put this out today, hope it helps you https://domesticviolencejustbreathe.wordpress.com/2015/11/12/sister-soldier-written-for-fellow-victims-of-domestic-violence/ I am praying for you Sister Soldier!
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November 12, 2015 at 6:51 pm
Thanks so much for your kind words. I have been out of relationship that I was referring to in my post for many years now, but as I’m sure you’re aware, the effects can last a long time, and not be so easy to get past at times. I have seen many people go through abuse, thinking that there is no way out. At one time, I was one of those people myself.
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November 12, 2015 at 6:54 pm
I’m sorry, I’m new at blogging, I didn’t know how to edit my comment. I just want to thank you for your encouragement, likes, and for following me! I will be following back. 😊
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November 12, 2015 at 7:07 pm
Please fol
low on my Domestic Violence site too https://domesticviolencejustbreathe.wordpress.com/
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December 2, 2015 at 4:35 am
Thank you so much for writing this. It’s hard to get the courage to stand up for one’s self. I really hope this helps a lot of people.
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December 2, 2015 at 4:41 am
Thank-you, I hope it reaches anyone that it can help, also! I appreciate your positivity, it encourages me to continue to write posts that can help others, along with blogging for self reflection and enjoyment. May you be blessed, take care.🌞
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December 2, 2015 at 9:11 pm
This is important information that needs to be shared. I’ve started a second blog that helps bridge the gap between victims of domestic abuse and others. I believe you can help many people. Please check it out and subscribe. If you’re interested in writing please feel free to email me at thesocialparalegal@gmail.com. Here’s a link to the website: https://ifyouknewsite.wordpress.com/
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December 3, 2015 at 12:56 am
Thanks again for your positive feedback. I hope that this particular post reaches anyone who may need it. I have a desire to help those in abusive situations, as I am able, or have the opportunities to do so. I have been in abusive situations in my life, and know many people who have suffered from different kinds of abuse. I can truly relate to certain people and their circumstances when it comes to dealing with abuse. I have deep compassion and respect for those who deal with, or have dealt with, unsafe or negative scenarios in their lives. Thanks again for your encouragement. God bless.
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